I Need a Fork

I’m trying to get better at doing nothing.

Like two days ago, when my kids were arguing over who got to use the computer first. And one of them suggested a compromise that didn’t seem at all fair. And my knee-jerk response was to get involved and make things right. But everyone agreed. And everyone was happy. So I didn’t do anything.ย 

Or yesterday, when my son didn’t want to do his schoolwork. I left him alone for a few minutes, and went into the kitchen. He disappeared briefly, and when he returned, I heard the clicking of computer keys as he worked on his language arts assignment.

I accidentally discovered that sometimes not doing anything at all is a good thing, because it gives someone else a chance to do something. And giving someone else a chance to do something is a veryย good thing, because I want my kids to be problem solvers.

I want them to have real experience solving real-life problems:

  • I need a fork, but the silverware drawer is empty.”
  • “My clothes are finished washing, but the dryer is full.”

Sounds odd to say that I’ll practice doing nothing, but that’s exactly what I’ll do. And maybe being slow to respond is a good start. Which sounds a lot like procrastinating…

I should be very, very good at this. ๐Ÿ™‚

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  1. I couldn’t agree with you more about this – why do we always feel like we have to fix everything?!? Can’t decide if it’s a control freak thing or are we so sure that our way is always the best way? Which, of course, it is. ;).

    1. I’m thinking in my case it MUST be the control issue, because half the time my way is absolutely the WRONG way. I don’t let that stop me though. ๐Ÿ˜‰

  2. I opened this from my FB feed and almost cried when I saw the picture with your handwriting at the top…and if that isn’t your handwriting it’s close enough to the way I remember yours looking that it moved me ๐Ÿ™‚ Isn’t it strange in today’s world how seldom we see each others handwriting and how personal and memory provoking it is?! Or maybe I’m just a sentimental fool ๐Ÿ™‚ Love you!

    1. Well, you’re spot-on Cindy. It is my handwriting. And you’re also right about handwriting being a bit of a lost art. Not a thing wrong with being sentimental.
      Really appreciate you stopping by and taking a minute to comment. Good hearing from you! Much love. ๐Ÿ™‚

  3. I love this post. Recently I have discovered that the best lessons I have learned, have been from the most simple and plain moments of my day. Thanks for sharing ๐Ÿ™‚

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